Couples Therapy

Our intimate partnerships can be a source of stability, love and connection that positively influences all aspects of our lives. Yet for many, after the initial “happy-ever-after” stage of the relationship, couples experience repeated episodes of turbulence and disconnection. In healthy partnerships, couples find ways to turn toward these difficulties as allies and learn together how to unhook from the relational scripts each has inherited from the past.

As couples therapists we are here to help you shift from reacting to each other based upon unconscious triggers inherited the past, to a place where you are able to shift perspectives and choose instead to become partners in the healing process. Bringing a new found capacity to listen and reflect, create safety and reach for the opportunities to connect to self and other. Becoming allies in this way spurs deeper self-understanding, enhances intimacy and upgrades the software each has inherited from the past.

In couples work as therapists our primary job is to create tangible support for each of you. So that both partners feel like “I’ve got your back”. In truth, as therapists, we are on the side of the relationship - which is enhanced by opportunities for new learning, deeper listening and renewed connection. A mindful quality of noticing is encouraged so that couples can become aware of what’s being communicated underneath the words so that a new relational space can emerge for something different to happen.